Is your partner an exercise addict?
Philippine Daily Inquirer/Asia News Network
By Mitch Felipe Mendoza
Exercise is one of the healthiest ways to spend time with your loved one, because aside from improving your health, fitness level and physical appearance, you also get the emotional benefits of connecting with each other.
But over-exercising, and doing it in inappropriate places and with the wrong companions, might ruin even a solid relationship.
Last year, the article "A Workout Ate My Marriage," published in The Wall Street Journal, described an "exercise widow" as someone who wakes up to an empty bed because of the spouse's early morning workout. This scenario has now become a reality, since running marathons and joining triathlons have become very popular all over the world. Instead of spending a romantic late Saturday night with the spouse, a runner who is training for an upcoming marathon would rather sleep early for a 25-km run at 5 a.m.
Sports enthusiasts and athletes should recognise their exercise behaviour and how it may affect the people around them. You might have been a sedentary person for the longest time and just recently discovered how running has changed your attitude, body, moods, energy level and outlook in life, so you always make time for it. However, be aware that becoming too hooked on something may hurt your loved one.
Making time for exercise is important especially if you are preparing for an event with the goal of breaking your record, but keep in mind that you also need to make extra special time for your spouse or loved one so he/she doesn't feel neglected.
One of the main reasons why people, especially women, resort to infidelity is neglect or the lack of psychological stimulation. So you need to communicate your exercise goals and plans, and of course, set aside quality time for each other. If you can encourage your spouse to train with you, then this might resolve some issues and increase the chances of being together.
If your loved one still refuses to join you, then you may invite him/her for a breakfast after the training or race. Let him/her feel that you really want to spend time with each other, and not because you are obliged to.